Bullying Special Needs Children:
Unfortunately, we had our first experience today. I was shocked: Losh was oblivious.
It was from a young(ish) child who has no siblings. By all means, this child was ignorant. Now, I don’t say that to be mean. I say it in the truest sense. This child was:
“lacking knowledge or awareness; uneducated”
This child was uneducated. She lacked awareness. This child had obviously been taught that people who use wheelchairs were somehow inferior to those who didn’t. She didn’t view Losh as being capable and all I could think was, “This problem lies with the parent.”.
How is she seeing her parents treat those in wheelchairs?
What kind of things is she hearing her parents say?
What kind of role model are her parents being to her?
This kind of behavior isn’t something that she could have made up herself. It was a learned behavior. By nature, children are very accepting and inclusive of those that are different than them. For a little girl to do what she did to Losh, she had to have learned it somewhere.
Bullies are more likely to:
- share their negative behavior with their own children
- have poor or abusive relationships
- become aggressive
- commit crime
- have limited social skills
- have low self-esteem
- be isolated from their peers
- become depressed
It’s so easy to blame the bully for their behavior, but I fully believe that bullying starts at home. As parents, we must all look at ourselves and see what kind of message we are sending to our children. Are we teaching them acceptance? Are we teaching them to include others? Are we leading by example? We can’t tell our children to do something when our actions don’t support that message.
Practice what you preach! Don’t allow bullying special needs children.
As a special needs mom, it is not my job to teach your child acceptance. It is YOUR job.
Don’t send your child into the world ignorant.