What’s your super power? – I look good!

What’s your super power? – I look good

I guess you could say I impress people. Or at least, I am often told that people are amazed by me. I hear “How do you do it?” so often that I should just print out a business card of sorts detailing my ways.

What is so impressive you may ask?

I am the mom of a special needs child and I look good (sometimes). Apparently that is pretty impressive to some people. I never really understood why, until I tried to look presentable on some days when time didn’t seem to be on my side and failed miserably because being a “mom” got in the way. Add to it the extra time that getting a special needs child ready entails and it gets downright crazy sometimes.

I am often left with the choice of either fixing my hair or makeup. I hardly ever have time to go all out and do both. This particular day I chose to do my makeup. I don’t even think I dried my hair, instead just let nature take over (and let’s just say it didn’t end pretty).

NYCBigBold Influenster voxbox - I look good - selfie

 

I’m pretty sure I chose makeup because I received the #NYCBigBold voxbox from Influenster and was excited to test the products out. I tend to stick with what works for me and lately that has been Maybelline eye products. I don’t mind trying new things, but once I find something I like, I get hooked.

With that being said, I am trying to learn how to perfect the winged eye look and find my current eyeliner a bit touchy. It is a very fine felt tipped liquid liner. I like it, but the tip is so fine that sometimes it wiggles in places where I don’t want it to go! I end up with messy lines. I was excited to see that the NYC liner in this box had a sturdier tip. (Check out Caitlyn’s blog about her box to see the tip up close.) It is much fatter and shaped differently than the tip I have been using. I thought it would be great, but instead it just means I have an even bigger crayon to color outside the lines on my face. Disappointing! I also found that this particular liner doesn’t work well on my water line. I resorted to using my Maybelline favorite instead.

So, what does this have to do with being impressive? Well, a few days ago we arrived to therapy and I had my hair down and fixed. Let me just say, it doesn’t happen often. One of the receptionists commented on my hair and said it looked good. That ended with me replaying comments in my head that I have received about my appearance.

“Your makeup looks great”
“You hair looks nice”
“Nice outfit”

I am hardly ever complimented on an entire look (hair, makeup, and outfit).. I admit, I don’t dress to impress. I tend to stick with jeans and t-shirts because that is what fits my squishy body best right now. I have never been into makeup like most girls, but sometimes it is nice to be complimented on entire looks. And that lead to me replaying more scenarios in my head where I have been put together from head to toe only to hear

“What are you dressed up for?”

People seem to think that because I am a single mother with special needs children that I am not allowed to spend time on myself or look good, and when I do it is impressive. I don’t know whether to laugh or be offended.

I look Good - special needs mom vs regular moms

I know that non-special needs moms have this issue too. Instead of being impressed when they look good, they are often seen as having their sh*t together. Somebody please enlighten me. Why are special needs moms treated differently? We aren’t any different than regular moms.. we just do things different.

What’s your super power? 
Apparently, I look good when I should look dishelveled.

Do you wear makeup/a winged eye?
I am trying… I suck. Usually one eye looks ok and the other looks really bad. Still learning!!

48 thoughts on “What’s your super power? – I look good!

  1. Robin (Masshole Mommy)

    I don’t wear makeup at all, but I always leave the house trying to look my best. I see moms at school in their pajamas sometimes and I can’t believe that they care do l little about themselves that they go out looking like that.

    1. LifeAsAConvert Post author

      Yes! I definitely don’t judge people by how they look, but I do think it says a lot about what they think about themselves (and others) when they put no effort at all into even getting dressed. At least put some clothes on! Pajamas aren’t proper outdoor attire!!

  2. Catherine S

    I don’t wear any makeup at all. On the days I leave the house I am in jeans and a t-shirt.

  3. Nancy

    I don’t wear a winged eyeliner because I do not have any clue how to make the two even, and I don’t have enough patience for it. But I do wear makeup. A lot!

  4. Terri Ramsey Beavers

    I love to dress up but my hair is the pits. I can’t seem to get it right so I concentrate more on my makeup and end up pulling it up most of the time, lol. You do look great BTW.

  5. mommiesquietplace: Amanda Ripsam

    Oh I can so relate. I often am asked how do I do it with all I have to deal with and I say Mommy magic powers or something like that. I also have a baby face I am 32 and often get told I look no older then 25 I used to get I look no older then 16 lol I love the quote you made cool.

  6. Pam

    I don’t like going out without makeup, but some days it just happens. I’ve learned not to judge based on appearances.

  7. ricci

    I love eye makeup!! It’s the one area I do everyday no matter what. I have been wanting to try the new NYC mascara, I love their eyeshadows!!

  8. Theresa

    I think your lashes look great! I do like makeup, and try to put a little on when I am leaving the house. At least some concealer for under my eyes if I don’t have time for much else. My dark circles are scary otherwise!

  9. Helene Cohen Bludman

    I wear a little makeup when I go out, but if I’m home all day I don’t wear any.

  10. Jeanine

    I wear make up really rarely, but when I do I love playing around with it… I don’t think I’ve ever done winged with any though, I wouldn’t even know where to begin!

  11. Ron Leyba

    You look way awesome than you thought! Love how you pulled your stuff together and how you manage to beautify yourself despite the busy scheds. :) way to go mom!

  12. Chubskulit Rose

    I have two kids and non of them have special needs but I still don’t have time to make myself look good most of the times. I admire you because even though you have a special need child, you can still manage to make yourself good.

  13. Kori Tomelden

    I’m not sure if I have a super power, but I’d want to think it’s my endurance… not in the traditional sense, but in the sense of making it through hardships and trials to this point. I think I’ve done a pretty good job.

  14. Rosey

    My daughter is really good at winged eye. She’s got a knack for makeup/hair/nails in general. I like it (I don’t have it). :)

  15. tanisha

    You’re very beautiful woman. I don’t always wear a full face, but at least put on a little bit of powder and some mascara or eyeliner. Just something so that my face doesn’t look tired.

  16. Melissa Vera

    I always feel better after I get my shower and get dressed. Normally I am in sweats and a t shirt so the added extra of getting dressed up a little makes me feel better.

  17. Amanda Love

    I don’t usually wear makeup but I do actually wear mascara every once in a while. Since I have very short lashes I have a brand that I just love.

  18. Chrystal @ YUM eating

    You are beautiful!!!

    I used to wear makeup daily, but it was very basic stuff. Neutral colors and never eye shadow. I started working from home full time about 7 years ago and pretty much stopped wearing makeup unless I am going out. So I don’t bother with putting make up on.

    So when I do and wear something other than yoga pants, people notice.

  19. HilLesha

    I never go out the door, unless I have at least liquid eyeliner for my signature cat eye look. I believe it’s important for women and men to put some effort into their appearances. :)

  20. Cara (@StylishGeek)

    Thank you for your enlightening post. I actually had no idea that Special Needs Mom deals with this, that looking good means more than just looking good and that one actually has their act together. That is unfair.

  21. Roselynn

    It’s so funny because I always get a little put off by anyone saying ‘you look good today’. It’s just like I look good everyday, just because you don’t notice doesn’t affect me lol. My superpower would have to be doing my nails really well lol too well because I often get asked if I have wraps on.

  22. Lynndee

    I don’t know any special needs mom so I wasn’t aware that they were treated differently. That’s just sad. Anyway, I don’t wear makeup at all. I only wear lipstick and lip gloss.

  23. Regina

    Hey there Courtney. This is Regina from the Single Mom Bloggers group. I’m glad that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m a special needs parent and I actually dislike the comment “you look good” which comes off as if I should not look well put together. Others may think its a bit sensitive to think this way but when you hear it often it can be a bit annoying. On the other hand your makeup look is beautiful, I’ll have to try some of the products you mentioned. I hope to get another VoxBox soon as well.

  24. Natalie

    I don’t wear makeup.. However I always get, “how do you do it being the only one with 4 kids..” Like we got super powers or something, we do it the same ways anyone else does it, minus the whole 2 parents thing, lol.

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